no job, no car , no teeth, GET LOST

this is not really funny but i have a friend, she is 4o years old a hard worker has always worked and i got a call from her yesterday she met a man who she thought was sweet and wonderful he even cooked dinner for her so she has to move from her apartment he says come stay with me i will add you to the lease we will split the bills and that will be better on both of us. so she has no where eles to go since you need several hundred to move into a decent apartment and her recent divorce left her with no home and only a little for car repairs etc if needed. thinking well at least i will have help paying bills not like the exhusband who stopped working. well the nightmare begins one month later the new guy loses job, then find out he owes 50,000 in back child support never mentioned children who hes not allowed to see because he has a criminal record and mental health record a mile long, RULE ALWAYS CHECK SOMEONE OUT BEFORE YOU START GETTING INVOLVED. i asked my friend how could you not do this she said i was so hurt and lonely after my divorce her ex left her for someone eles, that this new man was so wonderful and showed me attention. no 5 months later he still has no job, also find out hes on probation and has to pay that. i know shes helping him out with all this big mistake he will leave as soon as he gets what he can or he will continue to do nothing. remember sex does not mean anything unless its for love its just an act that anyone can do. he obviously has no love for anyone not even him self. well going through life myself it took a long time to realize love does not pay the bills and we all need some kind of security. so here are some rules i now have if i ever meet someone again i will definetly weed them out by these ill probally be alone but oh well
#1 always do background check
#2 make sure he has had a steady work history and has a good job
#3 must have valid job and license, had this problem twice real men have cars and licenses
#4 doesnt have childsupport or hopefully no kids or has older kids on there own
#5 check teeth out , bad teeth could be bad hygene habits

always say i love you to your child

based on my own experiences because of my fathers lack of love i have always felt unloved.
i was one of 4 children born to parents who should not have had kids. my mom was somewhat
loving but she was always stressed from raising us alone and my dad was absent, he would call once a week or come visit once a year or two. never enough to develop a real relationship, i still
talk to him on the phone maybe once a week and he never says i love you, unless i say it first then he says me too. I have went through life with dysfunctional relationships with men who are
unloving also. i think if my parents were more loving i would have a better self worth. so who ever reads this remember that even if you are a long distant parent just those words can make your child feel love then they can give that in return. i tell my daughter that everytime i talk to her and i love her more than anything in the world which i know she will in turn give her children the same. three simple words i love you, can make someone know that there life is worth living and give them the self confidence in life they need to suceed. try it today. GOOD LUCK

all inclusive jamaica trip

this is the way to go, get off the plane be escorted to the resort and no worrys, all food and alcohol included and it was the good alcohol so no bad headache the next day had enough of that in my life,lol . Me and my daughter went ,sort of a bonding thing we swam in the beautiful waters , ate delicious jamacian and american food, and just enjoyed life. They had music in the evenings so we would sit outside and listen to the bands, during the day we went snorkling,
paddle boating then we would eat and drink some more. The bar opened at 10am so i had my
white russian to start my day off. We took one tour, because we were cheap but it was about 60
dollars a piece we were taken to a beautiful mountain were we went horseback riding through the countryside, it was farm land with goats and chickens etc. then they took us on the horses in the water that was scary to me since i have trouble floating then we went back to the resort and ate and drank until we fell asleep. It was probally one of my most memorable trips since it was just me and my daughter and we really enjoyed spending time together. hey mon give this all inclusive thing a try you will love it.

one is not always a lonely number

well as im going through menopause etc. i have very little patience for much. im sure there are plenty woman my age 45 out there who are chosing to stay single and just squeeze in some romance here and there, thank god for massaging shower heads,lol. anyways after one agrivating relationship to the next i have decided maybe i dont want to be bothered by someones snoring and passing gas etc. It would be nice of course to have mr. wonderful but where in the heck is he. I sure havent found him. sorry cant do a hideous man. I would get sick.
Some woman will do anything for a secure income but i havent gotten to that point yet maybe when im 60 ,lol

my loser club

at this point in my life im sure allot of middle aged woman can relate. Here we are greying and wrinkling, divorced, and meeting the wrong men. lets see after my divorce i met one who would barely work, to one who wanted to party all the time, to now the current one i cant seem to get rid of because i have become like his mother. i have basically realized maybe im just better off
being alone. then i have no one to burden me with there problems and there downfalls.
i live out in the country with chickens, rabbits and other wild animals not including the one who lives inside that uses the regular tolit. i still like to travel and i enjoy spending time with my beautiful daughter and grandson. i love to swing down a few drinks and listen to some good old heavy metal and act a little nuts i still have allot of spunk in my old worn out body,lol